Go to ...

Web for People

Web for People on Google+RSS Feed

Thursday, August 17, 2017

10 Gay Sex Questions You’ve Had But Have Been Too Afraid To Ask


Ever ask yourself how much lube is enough or whats the best sex position for anal?

Dont worry, were all right there with you.

It doesn’t matter if you’re straight, gay, male or female, weve all wondered about the answers to our most burning gay sex questions (dont lie).

Sex between two men is a potpourri of options, explorations and experiences. Some men love anal, some prefer oral, some prefer cuddling and most prefer

Some men love anal, some prefer oral, some prefer cuddling and most prefer it all.

Gay sex is hot (read: the hottest), but there are a ton of unanswered questions, misconceptions and stereotypes.

My boyfriend and I want to try anal, but, like how?, my starry-eyed, totally clueless sister asked me earnestly over Thanksgiving dinner (boy did my parents love that).

So, lets set the record straight. (Yay, sex positivity!)

You need no longer fear.

Here are your most burning (for instance, does it burn?) gay sex questions answered.

1. Does bottoming hurt?

Lets not kid ourselves. At first, of course it will burn!

But that doesnt mean it always will (trust me, it gets better). It just takes practice.

It just takes practice. At first it will hurt and it will burn, but not forever. Youve seriously gotta loosen yourself up. With anything, practice makes perfect.

The analogy for bottoming I like to use is piercing your ears. Once youve pierced them, you have to leave the earrings in so that your ears dont close up.

Similarly, with anal, you have to make sure you do it pretty regularly so that, yes, you dont close back up. There will come a point when it doesnt hurt anymore. And then, it’s just pure ecstasy.

There will come a point when it doesnt hurt anymore. And then, it’s just pure ecstasy.

In no time, youll be a bottoming champ.


2. How much lube should I use?

This one depends. If you or your partner are just starting to bottom youve got to use a lot. If you both have bottomed a lot, less lube will be required.

If you or your partner are just starting to bottom youve got to use a lot. If you both have bottomed a lot, less lube will be required.

If you like things slick and slippery, use more lube. If you like the feeling of friction, less lube might be better for you.

Bottoming is hot. But, be careful, gents. Start slowly.

The best way to start bottoming is to use a lot of lube (read: a whole goddamn bottle, do not be cheap, buy the damn lube) and to ease your way onto your partners dick.

Remember that scene in “Brokeback Mountain” when Heath Ledger manhandles Jake Gyllenhaal and tops the hell out of him and it goes smoothly and is so steamy and hot?

Yeah, thats not realistic. That kind of rough, no-lube-kind-of bottoming your first time would tear you apart. Literally. Jake would have had to be

That kind of rough, no-lube-kind-of bottoming your first time would tear you apart. Literally. Jake would have had to be

Literally. Jake would have had to be

Jake would have had to be medevacd from the side of the mountain. RomCom over.

RomCom over.

General rule: Use more lube than you think youll need.


3. Do you suggest barebacking or using protection?

Its all about being safe. If you arent in a committed, monogamous relationship or you dont know your partners results and status, then always be safe and use a condom. No amount of pleasure is worth risking your health. Ever.

If you arent in a committed, monogamous relationship or you dont know your partners results and status, then always be safe and use a condom. No amount of pleasure is worth risking your health. Ever.

No amount of pleasure is worth risking your health. Ever.

However, if you and your partner are both tested and you feel comfortable, barebacking can be an extremely pleasurable alternative to using condoms every time. Plus, those condoms can get expensive!

Plus, those condoms can get expensive!


4. Whats the best position for anal?

This comes down to preference. When I was first trying bottoming, I preferred to be on top.

It felt more comfortable and the guy could slowly ease in and I could literally just lean back.

It can be maddeningly hot to get f*cked from behind. But missionary can be great too; you can look into your partners eyes while you f*ck them or they f*ck you. That kind of intimacy and connection shouldnt be underestimated.

But missionary can be great too; you can look into your partners eyes while you f*ck them or they f*ck you. That kind of intimacy and connection shouldnt be underestimated.

Whether it be missionary, doggie, cowgirl (a super heteronormative term, mind you), or another adventurous move, I suggest everyone continue to try new, exciting moves. Dont get stuck in whats comfortable.

Dont get stuck in whats comfortable.


5. Is foreplay important?

Yes, yes and more yes. In my mind, cuddling, kissing, and head

In my mind, cuddling, kissing and head are arguably better than penetrative sex.


6. Do I ask if hes tested or is that a buzzkill?

Of course you should ask if hes tested. This is an absolute no-brainer.

Dont risk your health to avoid awkwardness; its not worth it.

Getting tested is the sexiest thing you can do, especially together with your partner. Have fun, but be safe.


7. Whats your best oral advice?

If done properly, oral can be just as pleasurable for the receiving as the giving partner.

I used to hate giving oral (just ask the boyfriends Ive had), but I learned to love it.

I enjoy the opportunity to be in control and to give my partner pleasure. You can get off yourself by giving your partner head, too. Its super gratifying. (Just hear them moan!)

Giving your partner head and then having them give you head can be a totally hot, mind-blowing experience that will result in major orgasms for both parties.

Oral can either be a precursor to anal or its own standalone sex.

My advice to people with gag reflexes like me is not to push yourself beyond your gagging point.

You can give your partner an amazing time by playing with the head of the penis and the top of the shaft with your tongue and mouth. Dont feel pressured to make yourself sick.

Oral can be customized to what you and your partner like. At the end of the day, no one size fits all. We all feel pleasure from different things (but please try to be careful with those teeth).


8. Enema: fact or fiction?

Ive never had an enema, but I know many gay men who do.

Ive never had a problem with fecal matter or anything else of the kind, but some guys like to be safe and clean themselves out.

As long as you do it safely, enemas are a perfectly normal part of gay sex. Clean away!


9. Top, bottom, versatile: Whats with that?

I think the top-bottom dichotomy is socially destructive for gay couples.

Sure many guys prefer to top and others prefer to bottom, but, for the most part, most gay couples do both. It isnt like theres a guy and a girl.

When there isnt really a traditional top/bottom, this what is called being versatile. I prefer to do both you get to change things up and always keep it fresh and alive.


10. Rim jobs: yuck or yum?

For me? Yum. For others? Yuck.

I think a lot of guys are afraid to try it because they think its gross. But, they dont know what theyre missing. They feel f*cking awesome.

Dont knock it till youve tried it. Cause, as Mama always told me, one persons yuck is another persons yum.

Dont ever be afraid or ashamed about asking sex questions.

To keep things pleasurable and safe, we must ask these types of questions. It’s a part of life!

I encourage everyone to live a little. Explore new options and try things you might be afraid to. Trust me. You might be surprised by what you like.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/life/gay-sex-questions/1307321/

Tags: , , , , , ,

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

More Stories From Miscellaneous

About press,

Translate »